Posted by: deemckay | April 12, 2010

Starting a New Venture

I am about to embark on a new venture in business. I’m still learning and sharing the things I learn that make online network marketing successful. When I feel like I’m  getting down because things are not moving as I would like, I have to give myself a kick in the pants and try again. I found this article on my many searches on the “net” for info to help me on my entrepreneurial journey to success and I am sharing it with my fellow travelers in cyberland.

How Changing One Word Can Change Your Life

By Tamarisk Saunders-Davies

This word is basically on my banned list when I’m working with my counselling clients. I’ve called out almost every client I have ever worked with on this word because of its damaging ramifications. And if you were to pick one at random they’d probably say yep, she totally said that to me.
This loathed word is can’t. If any of my counselling clients happen to be reading this now they can probably hear my voice in their heads saying ‘there’s no such thing as can’t, there’s only won’t’. And I totally believe that.
Sure you can’t fly, you can’t turn your legs into wheels and you can’t develop psychic abilities. All those things are the boundaries of our existence, the givens of our world. The natural laws that we are all bound by can not be changed in those ways…psychics may prove me wrong on some of these but not for a while I think.

So what do I mean when I say ‘there’s no such thing as can’t, only won’t’. Let’s use an example:

* I can’t go on holiday this summer

* I won’t go on holiday this summer

The former statement implies you have no choice in the matter. The latter begs the question “why not?”. Why won’t you on holiday this summer? You can’t afford to pay for it or you don’t want to make some short term sacrifices to save up the money for your holiday? The choice is always yours. Plenty of people CAN (and do) save up the money to go on holiday so it’s not a REAL can’t.
You can’t leave your job even though you hate it. Maybe you’re choosing not to leave your job because although you loathe it, it feels safer than being in the job market. You’re making that choice. The choice is up to you. There’s no judgement, none at all, in admitting the job market is a scary place to be and it’s not for you right now. That’s totally fine, but don’t lie to yourself and say you can’t leave your job. Reframe it by saying ‘I choose not to leave my job right now. I don’t enjoy the work I do but I do like the secuirty this job offers me right now’.
Try it for a bit in your own life. Every time you say you can’t do something, question it. Is it that you can’t or is that you don’t want to? What changes do you notice? How hard was it? Has your understanding of your choices changed?

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Tamarisk runs a specialist counselling practice focused on providing counselling for career-orientated women struggling with issues of self-esteem, self-confidence and relationship difficulties live happier, more fulfilling lives. Visit her at Two Chairs Counselling


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